Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Being Good Enough
The desire to be perfect is a common want. The desire to be a perfect mother is so coveted. Yet, we have all heard that we cannot be perfect, but we can be good enough. However, I am often stressed and frazzled and left wondering "am I good enough?".
I want what is best for my child and imagine that what is best for Ellie is not always what is best for everyone else's child. I am sure that is even true among siblings as each child is uniquely different. The question is "how do I know what is best for Ellie?". It is that question that plagues me. That leaves me spending large amounts of my free time researching. Researching and worrying.
There is no joy in worrying. It eats away at the soul and steals time away from your loved ones. It robs you of your sleep. It sucks the happiness out of your down time.
It is not productive to fixate on the things that cannot be changed.
Here is what I do know, my husband and I try to provide the appropriate therapies to help Ellie succeed. We are trying to keep her socially engaged while providing her with "down time". We obviously feed her, clothe her, and give her shelter. Most importantly, we shower her with love and Ellie knows that she is loved by us. I am going to try to take a step back from my incessant worrying and enjoy today because all of what I just wrote says that I am good enough.
What sorts of things do you worry about while parenting?